If I had made a list of the top five qualities I desired in a spouse at 18, it would be very different from the list I would create today. Fortunately, by the time I first met my wife in college, I was starting to realize that character was a vital element in a strong… x.com/i/web/status/1…

bonkers couples' workshop story (h/t my tumblr friend nextworldover) pic.twitter.com/arMkoGWpmi

pretty good content—unfortunately most of this has been made almost entirely inaccessible & undiscoverable to the avg person until way too late. also fascinating that a psychologist wasn’t really ready for a serious relationship until she was in her 40’s. good thing ai is here… twitter.com/i/web/status/1… pic.twitter.com/sXUGU6rfTT

8 Signs of An Emotionally Safe Partner:

At what point does a couple decide whether or not to combine finances?

My wife @SaraSodineParr can't stop talking about @ramit's pod. It's sorta like couples therapy around money. I really dig it. Sara LOVES it.

Most people don’t know how to repair a relationship once it has been broken. Protocols to repair after a regrettable incident have been validated across cultures. A step-by-step guide:

The 6 Things That Predict Divorce: 1. Harsh Startup 2. The Four Horsemen↓ - Criticism - Contempt - Defensiveness - Stonewalling 3. Flooding 4. Body Language 5. Failed Repair Attempts 6. Bad Memories twitter.com/GottmanInst/st…

mfs be talking about how they want more precise language when they really want higher trust relationships

stop and read this. it's not long. this is an incredible little piece of insight from someone perfectly positioned to see it, and it puts words to a thing most of the men i know (including me) experience so latently that we don't even think about it anymore. fascinating. pic.twitter.com/BNlhvpDmia

@JeffLadish Shared interests are important, but way less important than being able to communicate effectively about hard topics, and being on the same page on the real important shit like money, kids, lifestyle, and sex. Most of us can only accept minimal compromises on those topics.

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